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hey guys. It's me again. Pete, your host of the one and the only sort of sophisticated. I think it's the one and only. I don't know. Did we even check that? We should probably check that. It's okay. It's, it's, it is. Um, we did our market research. We did, yeah, we did enough of it. Dude. That's why I also got a DBA on that, in that why Secretary of to sort, sort, uh, right. Um, whatever. How you doing today? I'm good. Good. I'm actually, I just got off a plane. You did what I did. And you just buzzed right in the studio. Sure did. Sure did. Just for you. We are so cool. Just for you. We're like podcast host, jet setting. Well, you're jet setting. I'm not Jet. I'm doing no such thing. I do, I do jet set a lot. I'm driving over here. It's a problem like I do every Wednesday. Where were you? Um, we went to Napa, Napa Valley for the first time. For the first time. For the first time we went to Napa Valley. Uh, sorry. For the first time this year? No. Like ever. I've never been to Napa. No, that's not true. I have seen you drink a gazillion bottles of wine. That is true in, in Northern California. No. Yes, no. Okay. Where do you normally go? Paso? Central. Central, central. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay, got it. Yeah. So this is our first time in Napa. Oh my God. Let's go Napa. And it was a different experience. Like everything is like better or like just different. I mean different and, and different and better probably. I mean, the places, I mean, people always talk about Napa, they don't talk about Paso nearly as much as Napa. That's true. Yeah. And the place that we went. Phenomenal. Yeah. We are very lucky to have gone to the places that we went to. Phenomenal. Should that be a word of the day or does everybody know? Phenomenal. Probably. Okay. Fine. All right. Sorry, go ahead. Um, but we had hopes of going to French Laundry and. What is French laundry? You don't know what French laundry is? No. The French laundry, you don't remember Gavin Newsom during COVID went, oh my God. To dinner. Yes. Right. My God. No masks, my God. Yes. All the things. Did you go there? Yeah, so I, I had issue like, okay, so I mean, this is not a political podcast. Um, but he is not my favorite human. More so because they're trying to push through AB 84, which is trying to kill, uh, charter funds for homeschool families, the whole thing. This is so much stuff, a little passionate about that obviously. Um, he's also telling Donald Trump to arrest him right now. Arrest me, I'm ready, but leave all the Angelinos alone. All right. I've also noticed that like every time he's on television or like on TikTok or anything, it looks like he's crying all the time. His eyes are always very watery. What is that? It's true. I dunno, is, is that like a thing? Does he do it on purpose? Maybe he, because I drop something before he starts talking. Okay. I think it's bs. Continue your story. Um, so anyway, so he was at French Laundry. We were maybe gonna go to French laundry. We didn't make it there. We did, however, make it to, Opus One, which is Yes. Oh, you know, Opus. Okay. I've heard of Opus one. That's good. Okay. I had not, okay. Yeah. Okay. So I mean, exquisite winery. Yeah. Um, like everything about it is just, yeah. Over the top. Anyways, the current executive chef at Opus One was the executive chef at French Laundry. Okay, got it. And, um, put together like a little, we have a little pallet. We have a little tie there. Yeah. A little pallet tasting to go, lemme guess you met him and hung out with him and now he's your best friend. I didn't, I didn't, but I did taste his food and I was like, if this is what French laundry is, I don't think I need to spend $500. Really? Like, it was just like, okay. I mean, and I get it. I get why they have three Michelin stars. I, I understand. And it was all very tasty, but it was just like so much fluff in your mouth, like you're, you just didn't know. I know. So this, here, here in lies your problem. Um, do you wanna know a little fun fact about I do. Peter Balinski. Okay. Um, I had no idea that the Michelin Stars came from the actual Michelin company. Guide. Guide. Yes. Like the Michelin guide, like the tire guy. Yeah. We should actually do an episode on the Michelin guide because I would've bet you anything that they weren't connected. They totally were connected. But isn't it brilliant though? Because every time they would say a Michelin star, I'm like the big marshmallow guy, right? I'm like, what does this have anything to do with that? Right. Okay. Whatever. That's, it's brilliant. But we should do that, a Michelin guide. Um, and we can talk about the ones that I have been to, not French Laundry, or we Can I take a trip there and then go, I know about any, oh my God. Really? I don't. I, well, 'cause Gabby and I never, like, were like, I mean, we went to cool restaurants, but like, we weren't specifically looking for like Michelin star restaurants. Okay. Well, I don't, the answer is, I don't know. Well, if we go to Paso Kevin, we're gonna Paso, I'll take you to a Michelin one star two. One has two stars, which is kind of weird because now I two stars. You get an extra star if you're like organic and grow your own veggies and stuff like that. I'm in. That's worth, that's worth the star. Okay, let's go. I'm in. Okay. Can we start? Absolutely. Can we get, can we kick this thing off? Now we can. All right. What we're talking about, you're rubbing elbows with Gavin. What's on edge Agenda? Edge, dirty laundry. And I'm trying to like, I'm trying to kick off a podcast episode here. Um, actually kind of apropos because you were in Napa. Yes. You're drinking wine. Yes. And today we are talking about. Toasting. Oh, toasting. The, the official, it's like Cheersing. Yes, cheersing. Okay. Like the official episode, right? Cheers to you. The sophisticated science of toasting. Huh? There's a science to you. There's a, oh, there's a total science behind it. Oh, man. Yeah. Wait, wait. Is this more like, just like cheers? No, we're drinking, we're exploring. Great. Is like, like how to do it like, like you give a speech. Toast. Yes. Oh, to give a speech. Well, so you're saying I need this for the wedding in August. We need this for every, we need this because we need to be cultured and curious because people need to know how to toast because at some point in everyone's life, it's true. Everyone has a toast. Like everyone's gonna have to be called upon to toast. And we need to be ready people. And you gotta do it with some confidence. Or even if you're not called upon now, will be your like moment. Right. Next time you have a glass and you're with your friends, you'll be like, I can toast now. Bitches could. Right. You could pull it up exactly right. Without like killing the whole vibe of the room or looking like a I'm excited. I'm excited because I don't actually, I didn't know that there were actually rules to toasting, but there's not rules like the whole idea or science or so to guide people today, we're gonna give them the, like the dos and the don'ts, right? Because, okay. Do you remember our episode? I think it was last week's episode where I was talking about the dude who toasted his, his niece and said to the valedictorian whatever, and then she was just like, and I had to sit through like a million shitty toast. So then I was like, you know, so I went home and I'm like, I gotta do something. Yeah. Yeah. On toasting, because you gotta make people cultured and curious because I would argue nine outta 10 toasts are, are terrible. Yeah. Right? Sure. So we're, we're gonna help people like, keep it Okay. Like. Stay organized. Alright. Yeah. I love it because I am gonna become cultured and curious in this quick moment. Because like sometimes I think people freak out when they're about to give a toast because really these are like little mini performances. Yeah. Right. They're like, yeah, yeah, yeah. Totally Little acts of being in the spotlight and everyone's staring at you. And unless you're like cultured and know what you're doing, bingo. You're. Probably gonna, you're, you're shit outta luck. Yeah. So, here we go. Welcome to sort of sophisticated people. Save the one person at, at a time. Let's go. Right. One toast at a time. Alright. So before we like jump into the sciency stuff of it, the general, not that sciencey, it's sort of sciencey. Well, like top layer. Then what makes a good toast? Should we TM that? Okay. I'm gonna answer what makes a good toast. Okay. Okay. I promise. And we're TM top layer. Well, I want to tm, sort sciency. Oh, right. So that's, I just like literation. Okay. Um, what makes a good toast is timing. Timing. Like, don't go too long. Yes, and like knowing how to read a room, knowing when to start the toast. Like, you can't be awkward about the whole thing. It can't be like premeditated, right? Like, you gotta, like, you gotta go with the flow and the vibe of the situation and know when to start it, when to finish it. Not to make it all about yourself. Like, all these things are super important and let's cut the crap. The more you know about like how to toast, it's like a respectful thing. Whether it's in America, whether it's another country, it doesn't really matter. It just shows that you know enough to be like, respectful of the culture you're around and in, oh, that's a so blah. That is a good, I have another question. Of course you do. So is every culture toasting different? They do. Oh, I didn't get that sophisticated in. I, like, I have a fun fact like at the end like we do a quick tour around the world of some cultures. Okay. But yes, but we're have America different way. This is all gonna be America people. Okay. This is Meka fair, right? Fair, fair. Yeah. I like it because I only know when I start a toast when I'm asked to do one at a wedding. Other than that, how many, many have you done? Okay. Very sad. The very first test I ever had to do, I didn't know that as a maid of honor. I had to give a speech. Yeah. No one told me this. I was really young. Oh my God, this is great. Still in college, I literally get up there. I am so scared 'cause I don't know what I'm gonna say. And I just start crying and they're like, oh my gosh, it's, she's so touched. 'cause her friend's getting married. And I was like, no, that's not the case. And Trent told me as we were sitting down for the reception, so do you have your speech? And I'm like, what speech? And he was like, you have to get up and give a speech. I'm like, what are you talking about? He's like. You have to talk in a microphone, you Oh my God. And give a speech. And that literally is what happened. It's just, I just started just crying. But it was authentic. It was very authentic. Right? I stumbled all the way through it. So everyone thought it was great. How about this? Everyone thought it was great, but thank you. Um, a spoiler alert. Uh, it was great 'cause it was authentic. And if you remember anything from this episode, be authentic. Oh, okay. Period. Be yourself, be just be authentic. Okay. And it's gonna be awesome. Alright. Uh, word of the day. I guess we're day. Are we ready for it? Yeah. All right, let's go. Our word of the day to day is, you're gonna love this one tude. Poult tube, poultry tube. Why don't you do your weird like poultry. Here we go. Yes. I love it. I love what you do. That I, I dunno how you spell it, but like, is it poultry? Poultry, like poultry. POL. How about this? P-U-L-C-H-R-I-T-D-E. Poultry. Poul. Like to mulch, like poultry and attitude. No, it's tude. No, it's like poult mulch. Yes. Mulch poultry. Yeah. No, that's it. You got it. Nailed it. That's what it is. No, it's not. Ah, not at all. With a bunch of attitude. Okay. You ready? You wanna know what it means? Yes. It means beauty. What? Yeah. It means beauty. Ude. Yes. Like, it's one of those words that's like the opposite of what it looked like. Okay. It's beauty. Beauty. Just beauty. All right. Yeah. Amanda? Yeah. You're full of poult too. Aw. You're the most, it's like attitude. You're the most poult. Full woman. Tti full. I don't know if I can really do that. Okay. Are we gonna start poult? We're starting. Okay. Okay, fine. Get it in there. Alright. So do you have some history about toasting? Oh, there's totally history. Okay. We're doing history. Let's go. Are you ready? Lock and loaded. Yeah. I love my history. Okay. So the earliest documented toast like that we know of, uh, goes all the way back to the ancient Greek times, like 500 dcs. Wait, how do we know about that? So I don't know how we know about like carbon dating, like a picture. They draw it on the wall. On the wall. The walls Dave, right? Huh? No, I don't. Okay. Okay. I don't know. These are very good questions and we are not curious, nearly sophisticated enough not, we're not to answer these, but sometime 500 BC or so is what you said. Just Yes. Just go. Can you just go with it? Please? Go the flow. Don't question. Listen, I get some facts down. I put 'em on bullet points and we're supposed to talk about this stuff. Okay. Listen, don't only get off track. The only reason I ask is 'cause we were driving up to Los Olivos a couple weekends ago. Yeah, yeah, yeah. There's like a Wait, that's Paso Robles, not Napa Valley. That's close to, yeah. Yeah. So we were also there. Um, but. Like, there's a lot there. Yeah. Mm-hmm. I don't know where to put up with you, but you could, like in the ash I showed you ttu. This you, okay. Ttu, whatever. Okay, go ahead. Um, but you can pull off and like in the Chumash Valley? Yes. You can actually see where they would write in Santa Barbara On the, well before in Santa. Before that, yeah. Oh, okay. Yeah. It's unbelievable. Yeah, I know. Oh, oh, I love this. That's why I asked, like, it was it written somewhere because I, I do now I just think like, is everything on a cave somewhere? I don't know. But Okay. They probably do have some sort of like written history here somewhere that they found in a cave somewhere. Fair. I have no idea. Okay. Papyrus, whatever. So the whole concept started where they used to pour out wine or oil or something okay. They didn't drink it. They would like pour it onto the ground so they could offer it to the gods during their parties or banquets. The idea would be that they would be I don't know, like rewarded or like gain favor or something along those lines. Right? Like that was the idea, the first quote, unquote sip. Would go out of the cu and then, and then everybody could drink. Does that make sense? Yeah. Yeah. Okay. And that all that was really 'cause of, uh, well, who's the god? The Greek? It was Greek Essis. Okay. Ionis. I dunno if I said it right. Ionis, esis, whatever I say Essis. A lot of people say Dsis. Yes. 'Cause everybody loved dsis. Why wouldn't the God of wine, why wouldn't you come on? Right. Like, let's go. Okay. Then the Romans come along. Um, and like we always talk about what do the Romans do? They make everything bigger and better than Greece did. So they just steal everything from the Greeks. Oh. They don't really like come up with anything original, unique, thank you very much. Okay. Good. Right. Um, and that's how they do it. So, they made toasting sort of political and social and more for like. Earth, not for goddesses and gods Okay. And stuff like that. More people oriented than God oriented. So they started toasting emperors and like the health of the guests. Okay. Um, prop, prop tibi, they would say when they raised the chalice or glass or whatever they drank out of back then, meaning I drank to you. Oh, prop. Okay, okay, okay. Yeah. Um, and actually it was some serious shit back then. 'cause like Roman wine wasn't really super preserved. I looked this all up like this. Like fermented or what? Yeah, it had like lead or mold and shit. Like in like the Oh, I guess, yeah. They didn't like disinfect it like, right. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So sometimes spices were added or bits of toasted bread. So it would improve the flavor. Huh? Okay. Or mask, like all the toxic. So you don't taste the poison. Oh, okay. Yes, huh. Absolutely. And that's where the phrase to your health came from. It actually meant yes to your, so they use toasted bread. Are you with me? Yes. And then it meant to your health in case you were, um, about to get, I don't know, diarrhea or dye. But is that also why we call it a toast? 'cause you just have toasted bread in your wine. Okay. This is a good question. Yes. What actually, that's where it came from now. But it took, but it took a little while, but yes, that's where it came from. Yes. What, so it didn't start. Yes. Is it to take your toast out? It's the, as a reminder of it came from the bread, huh? Yesss. Exactly right. But it didn't, that didn't catch on to like the 17th century. So we're fast forward. Okay. Okay. Okay. Well, I mean, I'm sure they didn't say toast. They didn't say toast. But then in England, here we are like, I don't know, the 16 hundreds. And it came from dunking a piece of spiced or charred bread into the wine. And it wasn't like they had mold or, or shit in there anymore at all. A different tradition brought among the toast. The different tradition was to soak up the acidity and the sediment at the bottom of, what do you call it? Like a cask. Oh, okay. Is it a ca? I think it's a cask. Okay. Right. Yeah. And that became sort of the last edible garnish that you could, you know how you like, you like you finish your soup with a piece of bread sometimes. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Same exact concept, huh? Right. So then over time, the person being honored with that, like last drink, the last person that had that. Right. Oh, they became known. They became known as the toast. The person. Huh? 'cause they were the last person to like get the wine that they dipped the bread. Okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Huh. And by the end of I guess the 16 hundreds, the word toast meant both the person being honored and the actual act of toasting or like raising the glass to your health. That's kind of weird. I know what it's, yeah. The person was the toast. The person was the toast. Yeah. Not the goat, just the toast. No, the, to the goat, the toast, everything. Right. Then shit gets weird. Right. Because then we go to the Renaissance and everything got weird in the Renaissance. 'cause what happened to the Renaissance? Everything took a dark turn. Well it is a renaissance. I mean, Renaissance. Right. Let's go. So toasting turned into a way to poison people. Yeah. Mm-hmm. What? Like, well, people you wanted to kill. That's how it worked. Especially like, no, like you slept low roofie. Like what do you mean? Like, well put poison in like the wine, right? This is for like nobles with the toast. Yes. This is like nobles and royals. This isn't like, like what? Commoners common folk. Okay. Okay. I don't even know what you called them. The peasants, whatever. Right. Yeah. So it was kind of like a big deal, right? So let's say like two, um, I don't, okay guys, first of all, I'm not sophisticated enough to know this, but like two houses back then maybe. Okay. Sure. Were like at odds with each other. Yeah. So like, they would obviously have banquets and hang out together and party and, someone who suspected they were gonna be poisoned. Right. A lot of, they would literally put poison in the wine. Yeah. When they just like have someone else drink it. Right. So, uh, do you know how like we started, you know, how we clink glasses to toast? Yeah. This is where this came from. So the idea is someone who thought they were going to be poisoned would clink the glass harder. So the wine would mix, or the oh, or the alcohol would spill over, like literally clink it, like hard af, not like we do like a little clink. It would spill over and drops would spill in. So that way if they saw their opponent, so to speak, drink, they knew that it wasn't, it was fine. They weren't pleasant. Oh yes. Interesting. It was like super weird. Like sh I, it's kind of brilliant that was going on down there. Yeah. Kind of brilliant. So, right. I did hear somewhere you're not actually supposed to like clean glasses. It's rude. Is that true? So probably in certain cultures. Oh no, you, you totally can in America. Okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 'cause it goes all the way back to this tradition in England. Yeah. And, and let's be honest, some of these European people that came over, you know, brought it over with them. Um, so the whole idea of toasting, which sounds counterintuitive, became a symbol of trust. Hmm. Born, from poison became a symbol of trust. And so that's why you like toast your friends. Interesting. Right. I makes sense. I feel like, I feel like a new tradition should be like if you have two drinks as a like college girl Yeah. Would be like to just pour a little bit in your male friend drink. Amen. Just to make sure. Right. Oh my God. I think I'm gonna tell Ruth to start doing that. You should because she's gonna college should, and I'm freaking out a little bit. She's dunk a little in. Yeah. So, um, alright. So when we finished the history part, but how about today? Like I, I feel like when we cheers and we clink, it's not the same as what those different traditions are. No. So is there like a modern or there's cheers or It's totally modern. It's totally modern. Yeah. No. So now it's like just a sign of good breeding or cultured society like. So people now rehearse in advance a lot of time quotes from famous poets, famous authors. Okay. Um, we add like moral ideals or sentiments that resonate with people. Um. And today we're, we sort of do it like, like super ceremonial, right? Weddings like true I big event. And then we do it at home, like when we're with family and friends. So it sort of now just grew up into the whole more accepted kind of fun idea of toasting to your health, toasting to people, toasting to the tradition. Good times. That whole good time. Yes. Absolutely. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I do love it either way. 'cause really it just marks a moment to honor someone. And I think it kind of also makes everyone feel included, right? Like, and also that you're not drinking alone. Maybe that's, maybe that's just my thing, man. Right? Okay. So I, do I have a question? Yes. Talk to me. Well, summary the question. It's more like a Can we do something? Can we do what? 'Cause you just did history. Yes. Right? We talked about like modern, right? But are there historical totes that like I should know about? 'cause I, I don't know if I've like ever heard of like a, his like a toast. That was so great that people reference it so. I look this up. Yeah. And no, like, there are excellent and awesome orators. Who, um, who are good at like, first Owen. Who good at, yes. Okay. Who happened to give toast? There's not, like, if you look up like super famous toasts, okay. You're probably not gonna find too many. But if you look up like super famous or Raiders that know how to give a toast Yeah. You're gonna get 'em. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So can I just do that? Okay. Okay. Yes. But then you're gonna give us all the ones who are good. Okay. Can we also do the ones that are bad, like ones that went down in flames? I can give you the what to avoid. How's that? Okay. Okay. Okay. I don't have specific people that screwed up toast. Okay. Okay. Yes. Okay. But I have like, like the don't do this shit or else. Okay. And we can like, well, I mean, your friend was an example. How about we'll make up or not friend, but Right. We'll make up names. Okay. To protect for examples, we'll protect the innocent. How's that? Fair? I love it. Okay. All right. So let's start with, um, Winston Churchill. Can we just start with wins? Oh, but I mean, it's Winston Churchill, right? Because he is awesome, because he is the best person on earth and, uh. By the way, if people don't know Winston, I guess we should, you know, fair. Explain that. He was the prime minister of the United Kingdom during World War ii. Uh, total Badass. Right. Amazing. Or Raiders. Yep. Of all, or Raiders. Right. And the opposite of tude, actually. Oh, he was not very beautiful. Oh, no, no, no. He was a, let's be honest, he was an ugly dude. Okay. Um, Famous for the whole, uh, we shall go on to the end. We shall fight down the beach. Oh my God. We just did D-Day too. Oh, we did. And that was, and that was his famous Oh my God. Oh. Gives me chills. Okay. YouTube, that it was the best speech ever. But that wasn't a toast. That wasn't a toast. No, I know. But like, he was the kind of guy that, like when he toasted, his toast served, multiple purposes at one time. 'cause he was that good. Right. So he would honor the individuals that we were talking about before. But he also would roll in like the whole idea of the national, culture and the whole, like his shared identity and all that kind of crap. So, uh, example of one of his most famous toasts. Super simple but super meaningful. I can't talk like him. I'm not gonna do the English accent. Okay. Never in the field of human conflict was so much owed by so many to so few. Or how about success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm, huh? Right. So like super deep. Yeah, super meaningful, but Like he, I mean, but like, are all of our toes supposed to be that deep? 'cause that's like, no. That life changing revolutionary speech. No, we're not trying to do, you just asked for most famous. Okay. Okay. Fair, fair, fair, fair. So if we just go back to never in the field of human conflict with so much owe by so many, but he stood there with the glass and he was a bad Yes, he did. And this is just what he was a badass. Thank you very much. Because, so that's like next level. Okay. Next level. Um, sorry, president Barack Obama, your lifetime. Right. Okay. You know. Okay. So he would, would you argue he was a great orator? Yeah. Like he was excellent at it. Right. It what's your presentation? It's your delivery. Right. Master of connecting and he was great. It captivating. Yeah. Yeah. So that was. I don't wanna compare him to like Winston Churchill. 'cause Winston Churchill's like, yes, the man, but Obama was awesome at it. Uh, Obama had one in 2011, uh, state dinner honoring Chinese president who au uh, don't quote me on, I might have butchered that whole thing. Uh, he said, our people will draw strength from our ties and it will continue to learn from each other. Let us raise our glasses in celebration of the new partnerships we are forging today. Beautiful. Right. Another example of emphasizing mutual respect, this is, this is China and cooperation between two global powers honoring the moment while also trying to shape our future. So one sentence, but super meaningful. Right. It's amazing how one sentence can encapsulate all of that. No, the, so I never took English. Like I wasn't, I took You weren't an English major. Yeah. Yeah, right. But like, it pisses me off. Like I think about like why, I never got into it. And then like with my kids, I was always math, science, math, science, math. And now as a older man, like in the last 10 years, I've realized. The command of the English language is so the command of any language that's true is so overwhelmingly powerful. And you think about it's important, Obama, you think about Winston Churchill, I'm, yep. I'm gonna give you Kennedy right now. Like, it's crazy, right? Um, so Kennedy's is awesome. Like, think about it this way. Hold on, hold on. Yeah. But is this like, it's like a fair trade that we could say, if you are good at this, then you must be in politics. no. I don't wanna say that. Okay. Well, you three examples are just, uh, uh, happy conveniently, so I get it. If you're, if you're good at it, you are, you're good at it. You're a leader of men. Okay. Okay. Like, what do you want me to say? You're a leader of men. Okay. In, in any capacity. I guess that would make sense. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Um, so at a dinner hosted by French president, uh, Charles Dugal. Okay. Okay. Right after Kennedy gets introduced, he stands up and says this, literally, this is John F. Kennedy, the president of the United States says, I'm the man who accompanied Jacqueline Kennedy to Paris. Which seems totally silly and stupid, right. Like on the surface. But it wasn't, it was perfect. I was like, I wanna go. Oh, no. Think about it. Super brief, super self-effacing. Mm-hmm. Like what we always talk about. Right. Totally humble, not about me. Right. Right. And it also acknowledged without like explicitly acknowledging the immense admiration that French people had for Jacqueline Kennedy and her beauty, without even saying it, picture truth. What? Oh my God. That was how you just nailed it. Oh my God, I gotta put 10 bucks in for that. That was perfect. Right. But also at the same time, subtly reinforcing the France US Alliance, which, you know, like was always a little shaky. Mm-hmm. So in one stupid sentence about his wife. Yeah. He fucking killed it. 10 outta 10. 10. Outta 10 totally killed it. Okay. So I basically did just like three, like politicals? Yeah. Okay. Um, so I have one that's not political. Okay. Okay. Tina Fey. Right. Oh, way more recently. That's one. She got super famous for her toast at the Golden Globe Awards. Oh. So for three years, I kind of vaguely remember that. Yes. No, totally. Like, I think it was like 2000 13, 14, 15, I don't remember exactly right. Mastered the balance, like between celebration and critique. She was mc Right? Okay. Yes. Uhhuh. Um, and like, totally figured out how to like, spotlight the weirdness of the whole celebrity culture and like how we deal with all of that. Mm. Uh, just excellent. She balanced tone and like timing and like reading the room, like better than anybody in the world. My idol. Okay. But what was her toast? Okay, so one of her best toasts, right? Um, I know best lines. Oh, okay. Lines. I dunno. Best line, right? 'cause she's at the golden section of it. Yeah. I'm calling it a toast. But you get the idea. Uh, Meryl Streep is not here tonight. She has the flu and I hear she's amazing at it. Well, you lucky cause it's funny. No, but but this is my point. She knew how to like, bring everything together, right? Like that wasn't just about being funny. That was about Meryl Streep being awesome. That was about us celebrating the celebrity culture a little too much. And like recognizing we rely on it and we shouldn't it's like super, awesome. The way that good people know how to do that. I mean, she is good at, I know, right? She would be a good public speaker, I feel like. Okay. One, a few honorable mentions before we move on. Absolutely. Okay. White House dinner. I'm back to presidents. FDR r Dun. Uh, here's to politics. The art of looking for trouble, finding it everywhere, diagnosing it incorrectly. And applying the wrong remedies. Why is that so true? Right. But so much true. Again, super humble. Like this guy was 16, who's 16 years at our right. That's and oh my God, yes. Okay. And then of course I have to end one with Irish toes. 'cause by far the best then, um, I have no idea who it's attributed to. 'cause most Irish toes are anonymous. Okay. Because people who know are drunk. Okay. Um, may those who love us love us, and those who don't love us, may God turn their hearts. And if he doesn't turn their hearts, may he turn their ankles. So we'll know them by their limping. That's amazing, right? Well, that was so well done. Thanks so much for pulling that all together. Um, because I'm not gonna lie, I actually didn't know any of those toast. So here we are. I don't know, lots of things as we already know. But. Can we go to the other part? Because I feel like that part's gonna like help me. The bad part. Yeah, but the crappy toast part. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Not like the toast that were crappy, but what not to do. So I not, not an idiot when I'm standing in front of people trying to give a toast because You're better than you think. I chill out. You're totally fine. But the worst part is what is that? People only seem to remember the bad toasts, so I don't want that to be me. All right. Here we go. Are you ready? everybody loves their train wrecks. Whatcha talking about bad toasts? Make way better stories than good toasts. Okay. Yeah, they do. This is true. But I just. I don't wanna be the bad one. That's fine. Um, I wanna be the memorable one. I got some. We'll go over. And PSA. All names and dates have been changed to protect the integrity. Upset Dividual. Okay. Gimme like examples. Yes. We're gonna do that right? Because I want, so I can learn from others' mistakes. Yeah. These are my friends and I want 'em to keep listening to my podcast. So like, I can't actually call them out right now. Rocket. It could like really weird. Okay. Um, first one, we're gonna call it big ego. Best Man guy. Right? You were talking about being the maid of honor. Yeah. Yeah. Our best man was real. His was real good. It's no, they're normally really rough. Oh yeah. They normally think they're really funny. And, um, most people aren't very funny. That's true. That's true. They just think they're funny. That's true. Right? They ain't got the delivery. Yeah. And so like, they turn their best man speech into like a roast and roasts are hard af like, don't try it. Let professionals handle it. Like Nikki Glazer. Okay. Seriously, Tom Brady. Glaser, you remember that? Oh yeah. That was a good one. Yeah. Okay. It was excellent. Okay. Um, well done. Most of the time, Amanda, they'll start off fine, but then they turn and they go into like all these super long-winded stories about growing up together and all the bullshit nobody cares about except a few guys in the audience. Like it's way too many inside jokes. Everybody else pretends to laugh along, so like the best man's ego isn't bruised. It's super weird. Just don't do it. Like, don't be that guy. You with me so far? I'm with you. Okay, fine. Don't do the best man toast. Uh, the drunk toast, right? Ooh. But see, alcohol and public speaking don't mix. Yeah, but that should just be like common sense. Oh, you would think. That's when people get so alcohol, like I guess it doesn give on a little braver, right, right. Liquid courage. Yes. So that's, so they start toasting and then they go all unfiltered. And the thing with alcohol is your timing is off. Like it totally sucks. You don't understand. You think you're outta control. Funny. Your jokes suck because you're screwing up the punchline because you're half drunk, like nobody gets what you're saying. Okay. So no roast, no, no alcohol, no roast, no alcohol. Okay. So far so good. Okay. Then you have the um, egomaniac executive. Like work professional toaster, like at a work meeting. Right. So the whole idea of this one is the boss end up to give a toast. Okay. Um, usually about the team or something great that they've accomplished together. Together, okay. Is the key word here. Yeah. Right. Uh, but ends up using the mic to start like of course telling jokes about their coworkers or say some stupid shit that makes people uncomfortable in the first place. Um, they usually don't rehearse anything to start with, which they should have because you're in a professional environment. So you're saying like, just stick to the point, especially in a professional environment, you have to totally stick to the point. Okay. And don't worry 'cause we're gonna go through like what to do. You ask sort of what are the, I'm giving you examples of like, not kidding, shitty ones I've heard. Got it. I've heard the bad best man. I've heard the, the bad drunk toast. I've heard the bad professional, at work. Um, and then of course just the random rambler. Oh. But that was me though. that was you really? I told you, I told you my story about. My speech. I feel bad for you. That was a rambler. Well you said you cried, which is kind of good. Yeah, I cried and rambled and was a blubbering mess. Right? Yeah. The problem is, is when you don't prep uhhuh of any right check, you start go, right, you start going down rabbit holes and then the toast loses like a gazillion amounts of energy very fast. Yeah. It loses the point. And the problem is everybody's so polite. They are. Oh god. But it's like, been there, done that. And, and so what happens is they leave these environments and then they go get on podcasts and tell stories about how bad they are. Yep. Well, there, here we go. So, um, these were my four best friends and hopefully they don't know who they are and I coded it feel. Maybe number four was me, but that's okay. No, 'cause I didn't know you then, so you're safe. Right. Well, now that we've just, uh, taken this terrifying trip through toast, that should have never happened tm, because that's, uh, me right there highly like, I like y uh, the terrifying trip through toasts. That was, that was good. Literation. You like the tease? Yeah, that was good. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Well. I just never wanna relive that. So, um, well, a great toast is possible is what I'm kind of gathering from you. It is. And what you're laying down. Oh, this is the culmination of the whole podcast. It is let's go. I all, I just heard you can't make it your standup career on a third glass of Chardonnay bullshit. You can't like there is a perfect There is. It's out there like recipe. There is perhaps, yeah. Okay. What is the recipe we're gonna do? Well I chat GPT it 'cause I don't, shit. Of course. Are you ready for this? Okay. So. I'm gonna quote them exactly what chat g PT said. Okay. A great toast isn't about showing off, venting or being clever. It's about honoring the moment with clarity, sincerity, people, and just enough personality to connect with everyone in the room. Everyone. It should feel intentional, personal, and well-paced. Something that elevates the occasion without overshadowing it. So you're basically saying, have some self-awareness. Have a lot of self-awareness. Oh, here we are. Okay. You ready? Here's how it works. Yep. Here are the rules. Write 'em down. Memorize these first. Keep it short. A toast should last no more than two minutes. Amanda. Two minutes. How long was your toast? The one that I blubbered through? Yes. Oh, way too long. Okay. Like 10, two. That's it. Okay. Two minutes. That's not like, that's not etiquette or anything. That's literally attention span. That makes sense. Remember I said science? There's your science. Sophisticated science. That's it. People do not give a shit about what you say during the toast. They remember how they feel during a toast. Fair. Not what you say during a toast. And once you pass two minutes, they're gonna remember. They were bored. That's all they're gonna remember. So keep it short, keep it focused. Period. So far so good. So far so good. Okay, number two, be a storyteller. 'cause storytellers are awesome. You know who we need. We need Alex Kri back on this. Oh, we do Because he knows how to do this right? He's so good. Don't just list accomplishments or compliments like, Everybody knows like, oh my God, she had so much tude. She was so nice. She like, it's, it's right. Trust me. Like just do one strong like meaningful story connection that Yes, that brings a whole toast to life. Okay, so for a wedding? Maybe it's how the couple met In business, it might be like a moment of professional growth. People connect with moments, not bullet points. Make your toast personable and relatable. Amanda, what channel your inner Edgar Allen Poe. And be a short storyteller. Oh, I see what you did there. That's it, huh? Right there. But maybe just like no gr and horror. Well, I mean, maybe, maybe, maybe a little gr I dunno. Depends. Unless it's a good story. Depends on your toast, right? Okay. At one time when I helped her bury a body, right? I'm just kidding. My God. That would be hysterical. See now look how good you are at it. Okay? Okay. Alright. So keep it under two minutes. Storyteller. Uh, number three, make your toast about who you are. Toasting please, not about you. Everybody makes it about them. Ah, this is not time for your whole like origin story, right. Or your own like promotion recently or anything like that. Like this should be on the people you want on when, right. Yeah. Don't do that. Right. Okay. Use your perspective to reflect on something meaningful about the person. Not insert yourself into the center of it. Okay. Um, and then finally the last one, end the damn toast. Like actually end the toast. So many people don't like end the toast. It's so simple. Like all you gotta do is like, raise your glass and say something super basic and then be done and shut up. Like, actually finish it because you just tail off. Most people are like, oh. And then, uh, that's the end. They choose. They don't, they don't say like, and cheer, right. They don't do that part. Okay. So you want the cheers part saying like, yeah, and people get very confused 'cause they don't know how they're supposed to finish it. Kinda like when people pray. Yeah. They like, and they just kind of go on. Right. And then you're like, and then they silence. Are we done? Yeah. Right. Okay. Yeah. They, or they just like randomly pass the microphone to the next person. Like, are we finish? Yes. Totally stupid. Four. Okay. So we got those four kind of checklist things that we should do, look out for, blah, blah, blah. But can you give us like solid examples on how to implement these things? Oh, I can. Well, yeah, but like, I'm not like off the cuff, like right now. I'm not coming up with this crap. I gotta chat. GPT this. Well then go chat. GPT all and chat GPT. Fine. Then I'm gonna check out what we got. So fill the air while I chat. GPT please. So I don't, don't screw us up. I mean, just side note what like the whole AI thing freaks me out. It's excellent because we can have podcasts now and do this. I know. And need to learn. I know. Okay. All there's good, but still freak. I just looked, I just looked up four toes. This is excellent. Are you ready? I'm ready. Okay. Okay, so for weddings, okay. Weddings are like. Emotional. Right. Obviously highly personal. So yeah, our toast needs to reflect, the whole concept. We need to focus on like a quick personal connection to the couple, a meaningful or funny story, a compliment that speaks to their relationship. And then like, we gotta close the shit. Right. Okay. Okay. Got it. All right. Ready? So something like chat, GPT. I've known Amanda since college, and even then she had a way of lighting up every room. When she met Trent, something changed. We all could see that there was a sense of calm, a sense of certainty. They didn't just compliment each other, they made each other better. People. Two, Amanda and Trent Mayor lives together. Be full of strength, laughter, and just enough challenge to keep you growing. And that's really enough. Cheers for a wedding. Cheers. Yes, that's absolutely. People remember how they feel. People don't remember what you say. That's so short. It's excellent. I've, you're done. I've never been to a wedding where it was that short and therein lies it because what are they doing? Okay. And that's the problem. They're making it about themselves. Okay. Fair. And you're supposed to be making it about the couple. Thank you very much. I love this. Okay, so short, sweet, to the point. Yes. Okay. Um, all the feels. All right. How about this one? For a work event, it needs to be respectful and inclusive. Avoid any personal story, totally steer clear of humor. Right. Because I always do humor. Oh, well, okay. Focus on acknowledging the occasion. Whatever it is. Like a retirement or promotion, whatever. Okay. Recognizing the group or the individual being honored. Highlight one key achievement or quality, and then offer. Thanks. Okay. And then usually like some forward look like how awesome we're gonna be together. Exactly. Something like, here we go. Today marks not just the launch of our new project, but a reflection of the team that showed up, pivoted when they needed to, and delivered with integrity to everyone who contributed. And especially Maria, whose leadership made this possible. Thank you. Here's to continued growth, collaboration, and doing work that matters. Mm. Like good old pat on the backs for everybody. There we go. Special little shout out. Yes. Nobody feels embarrassed. Everybody the point. Yes. They toasts are all about being straightforward. Yeah. Okay. Well, but how about like when you're at with friends? Okay, friends, okay. You're chill. Besides just like to us, we chilling to help. Here we go. I got a chilling one. Okay. Okay. So it depends if like you're going super formal and you're gonna sit down at dinner table or if you're gonna like do something off the cuff, but it doesn't have to be structure or anything. Just acknowledge the gathering. Express. A little gratitude. Then add like the little personal touch. Oh. Okay, so something like, every time we're together, it reminds me that the best parts of life are just the ordinary ones. Good food, full glasses, and people who make you feel at home, oh, to friendship and nights like this. Hmm. Dun, dun dun. Right? Yep. And that could be totally in a formal dinner party set. Yes, absolutely. And if you wanna do way less formal, right? Like if you're drinking in the backyard or just like poured everyone their first glass of Prosecco or whatever, then, then it's about timing. Like you have to be quick and funny. So like, you're be funny now. So again, I guess more timing than funny. 'cause like it's really about if you poured it all and you're ready to go, then just do it right then because people will appreciate how it just comes off so quick. Mm-hmm. Right. And not thought out. Right? And so, Hey, here's to the knights. We'll never remember with the people we'll never forget Or maybe to keeping things classy tonight. Or at least pretending that we are. So the idea here is like you say it quick, Where people aren't prepared or ready for you and it comes off as like super authentic and fun. Yeah. And genuine. Yes, totally genuine, right? Yeah, absolutely. And people will appreciate it. So it's gotta be super short though then. So you gotta sort of ha like those are the ones I'd memorize. Like I'd have three or four of them like ready to go. So you'd be ready. Yes. I would totally like back pocket it. Yes. Yeah, yeah. Totally. Back pocket. And then, and even if you are not the host, if you see the host is struggling right, and like, like doesn't know it, then you just do it. Okay. Then you come in and you're like, oh hey, I'll do that. And like people will be like, oh my god, that was awesome because that one's all about the timing, right? Sure. Yeah. Yeah. All right, well that's all chat. GPT had. There you go. Well, it didn't fail us this time. There we go. I love chat, GPT. Um, well now that we've learned how to toast without hopefully embarrassing ourselves, um, you mentioned earlier that you had a fun fact about other cultures and toasting, and now I'm interested. Oh, because like we went through very like American traditional things. Oh, oh, I do. So, but it's my like, it's like my last fun fact. So I gotta get Oh, we've more all, yeah, I got fun. Okay. Okay. Okay. Let, but that's like my last big main one I saved today. Let's lay it on me. We ready Uhhuh. All right, so number one. So in a lot of cultures, eye contact matters like a lot, like especially in Northern Europe like Switzerland, Norway, France, um, and literally in any German state, wait, you just said that had a wafer cultures, this, you're listing a bunch of. Other pictures of America? This is exciting. Okay. Good point. It's exciting. Sorry. Sorry. Okay. I have two. Okay. Okay. Okay, got it. So it's customary and considered actually very bad luck not to make eye contact while clinking glasses. Oh. Some people say it curses you with seven years of bad sex. Huh? So eye contact people. Oh, that's a big deal. Or else, uh, yeah, kind of. I'm also nervous, like eye contact. I might like miss with my glass. I'm not that coordinated. No, you gotta, you gotta do it. It's like next level. Yes. Especially German speaking countries. Okay. Okay. Number two, you wanna guess the world record for largest collective toast ever? Like how many people came together in one place to toast? Oh, like one toast, but not like collectively long? No. Oh, okay. No, no, no, no. Like, like how many people? Yeah. Okay. You ready for this? Yeah. 32,904 people. That's a lot to people come together to toast. Like did they do it at a place where people were already there? They did a very famous place. Oh, Fenway Park. Oh, Boston. Was it like at a game? Boston, Massachusetts. It's April 20th, 2012. Oh. To celebrate the ballparks 100th anniversary. So smart. I'm not gonna lie, there are so times there. 32,000 people toast. Let's go. Those like, um, world records that are broken or whatever, where it's kind of like, oh, we're having a baseball game. Yeah. Everyone put on their hat. We have 42,000 people wearing a pink hat. Right. It's kind of B us. I agree with you. So is that kind of the same thing? That's exactly what happened. Okay. Fair. Well, but you know what? It makes for a good, fun fact. Right? Okay. Um, number three, the word cheers as a toast comes from the old French. Okay. You would think it was English, but it comes from the old French jar, meaning face. Or expression like, and it evolved fist. Fist in your fate, in your fight, right. It evolved to mean gladness or rejoicing. And by the 18th century, it was commonly used as a celebratory greeting during drinking. Kind of like salud jaw. Jaw. Is it like salud? Yeah, it's like that. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Okay. But I thought it was an English word. Mm-hmm. But not it's a French word. Okay. Uh, number four, did you know that Napoleon was a fan of something called strategic toasting? What is strategic toasting, right? Strategic toasting. Is it like, it was very diplomatic. It was about like reinforcing his political alliance. It was, it was like what all the presidents were doing, like with all the things we did earlier. Oh, they're just toasting each other. Yeah. Right. Oh, okay. So Napoleon would often toast to subtly reinforce his alliances or signal favoritism at a court who he toasted. In what order was his diplomatic way of telling people where they were ranked and how much favor they would get from him. Oh, so he had to sort of pay a tent. What a nasty little Napoleon. Yeah. Right. Why'd you say little? Was he not little? Well, he was little. Oh, I'm gonna lie. Uh, okay. Number five. The last glass was once a superstition. What do you mean last glass? Uh, the last person drinking. Oh, so you like just toss it back The last, yeah, the last, so check this out. So, in Victorian England, it was considered unlucky to drink the final glass of wine from a bottle unless a toast was made first. So as a result, you had to think quick on your feet if you were like the last glass that poured, you had to be ready with a toast to avoid bad luck. So like, imagine we're sitting at dinner and I pour you the last bit of wine. Okay. As soon as I pour you the last bit of wine and that comes out. You have to be ready to toast right then. Fun. Oh, otherwise you're screwed you up. Bad luck you. Right. So that's why you have to have a few memorized, like those quick one-liners memorize. 'cause you like this is because you never know who you're gonna run that. Like Victorian England. This is the cool part culture because the more you know about this Oh, the more you can just, okay. It's all coming up. Okay. Okay. All you ready for my trip around the world? Yes. All right. This is it. I've been ready. Okay. This is what we've been waiting for the whole time. Yep. I have. Okay. Alright. so I'm gonna go through a few countries. Okay. So in Japan you have to wait for the host before you can drink anything. So jumping the gun is considered rude. Like you can't drink anything. Like when you get to a party, I mean, it's kinda like when you were at a dinner party. You're not supposed to eat until the host sits down and eats with you. I don't know. I couldn't drink a little bit before the toast. I'm not gonna lie. Okay. Maybe I'm cheating. Okay. Once the host is toasted, you say meaning empty the glass and then you can take your drink. Finally. I didn't know that. Okay. Oh, in Korea. It's respectful to turn your head away from your elder slightly and cover your mouth. When drinking in front of someone older or higher status toasting is deeply tied to age and hierarchy. Um, remember when Alex did his episode, he talked to us. Oh yeah. I don't know if it was in the episode or not, but he was telling us about how you clink the glass underneath. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. In, yeah, yeah, yeah. Same. Ooh. I have one about Russia too. Okay. In the country of Georgia, right? Mm-hmm. Let's go. Toasting is literally an art form at Georgian feasts. they're also called Supras. Uh, designated Tamara leads the toast. That's like the Toastmaster. Okay. Sometimes giving 10 or 20 toast in a night, each one with some specific philosophical or emotional depth and against everything we just taught you. In Georgia, it's pretty much normal for these toast to last, like a long time, like five or 10 minutes each. Wow. And even include poetry or longer storytelling that's like epic. Oh, I don't know. It just feels like a lot. I dunno. If I want to hang out in Georgia and listen to all these toasts, I might be like, they might be good though. Mm-hmm. They might be good. Okay. Um, all right. How about China Toast reflect status. just Like in Russia, it's polite to hold your glass lower than someone you respect while clinking your glass. And if their business banquets, they usually have several rounds of toasting. And if you don't participate, you're considered rude or untrustworthy. Oh, wow. So you better participate. Don't be shady. Okay. And in Russia, I mean, I know we talked about Russia a little bit, but toast are expected to be super serious and heartfelt. No jokey or off the cuff stuff. Zero. Done. Or go figure. I mean, I got the serious part, right. It's the heartfelt part kind of threw me right. I can't go there. Nope. I don't think, it's common to toast a health, friendship or the memory of the dead. And mostly they come with vodka and you can't sip this, you gotta down the shit. It's like a shot. Like do cheers down whatever they say. Okay. I, I, I don't remember the word. Oh my God. Okay. Um, and finally in Hungary, they once boycotted beer clinks. Remember the whole clinking thing? We talked about Uhhuh for 150 years. Oh, wow. Yeah. Okay. Check this out. After the 18 48, 18 49 Revolution Austrian the Austrian Hungary, and like they got into a big war, Austrians reportedly celebrated Hungary's defeat by clinking their beer glasses together. So. A gesture of pure like protest. Hungarians refuse to clink their beer glasses together for the next 150 years. Only recently have they started to change their tradition. Even though like a lot of Hungarians like still abide by it. Dude, they don't forget. They don't let go. They're just like, clinking could be so offensive. Let let go and let God, right? I guess settle down. Humbly she just take the wheel. Oh my God. Well now I officially feel prepared to go and give a speech. I also feel mildly like peer pressured that I have to find the next moment relatively soon. So I don't forget all the stuff that you, let's go out me, let's go out to here tonight. Okay? And let's practice. You'll have three or four prepared. You'll be ready to go. Dude, they we're set. Also, do you purposely like do that every episode? What? Try to make me. Feel like I need to go and implement. 'cause you do. So here's the deal. You're the test case, right? Like, so this was the whole, this he, this was like my little secret behind this whole thing. I'm like, experiment. You represent the listeners. Thank you very much. Oh, that's true. So if i's move you, then hopefully you can motivate me to do it. Hopefully by way somebody else do it. Let's go. Okay. Alright. Alright. You're like the first one doing it, so you're like the leader and then hopefully listeners are what we call, wow, I feel so manipulated. The first, I'm just kidding. Did you really just figure this out after like 60 60? This is terrible. It is. Oh God. But I, I do like, I love learning new things and I love implementing it. 'cause you don't, it doesn't stick unless you implement it, right? No it doesn't. Absolutely not. Well. Talking about implementing stuff. Why don't you just, uh, give us the quick takeaways. Quick takeaways. You wanna do quick takeaways? Yeah, let's go. But I always do call of action, so I gotta do that first. Okay. Can I do a little bit of that? Okay. Okay. Okay. Alright. So, um, besides the obvious, like, duh right, give a toast at your next, get together people. Just go for it. Um, one other thing you could do to level up your toasting game, I would argue, join Toastmasters, right? Like a lot of people are in Toastmasters. I feel like you should do that. It, it's, I like, I'll go just do a regular toast. I don't wanna down, should go to Toastmasters. I don't wanna downplay Toastmasters. Like, 'cause like I do believe it's, it's a thing. It's awesome thing and it's a good thing. But I feel like I'm already like, good enough at like speaking. I feel like should just like, yeah. Challenge accepted and you should go join it. I probably should. I'm gonna find you the Orange County one. Uh, because I did Did you ever do Dale Carnegie or no, Dale Carnegie. No. So similar, but different. Like, it's not just about toasting, it's about public speaking and getting comfortable, like in your own skin and everything. I did that too when I was younger. Um, and that was unbelievable. Like eight week course. Like great, great, great, great. Anyway, okay, um, shout out to Dale. Miss you buddy. Okay. That's my call to action. So just do those things. But, uh, here's all you need to remember to, sort of crack the simple toasting code. Keep it under two minutes, right? No one ever complains. Toast are too short. Remember that. Um, number two, tell one good story, not 10 random things that you think are fun or thoughtful. One specific moment says Way more. Keep short. Yes. Yeah, keep it simple. Stupid. KASS, right? Okay. Uh, make it about who you're toasting, not about you. It's a toast, not a TED talk. Stay focused on the person or event being honored. And then end with actual toast. Always close with like a clear line. That's signals the moment. To love and laughter, to new beginnings, to new chapters and full glasses. Anything like, just like end it. And finally, cultural awareness counts. Toasting is cultural fluency in action. Knowing how to toast and when is a soft skill that shows you can read a room, honor, tradition, and connect meaningfully. That's what makes it sophisticated. Well, sorta. I'm just kidding. That was good. Alright, friends, that is it for this week's episode. If you learned something new, laughed at least once or now, feel vaguely inspired to raise a glass without spiraling into a full blown anxiety attack like me, then Pete's done his job. And remember the best toasts aren't performances. They're small acts of gratitude, celebration and connection, and done well. They will linger quietly and meaningfully for all the right reasons, none of the bad. So if you like this episode, please share it with a friend who needs help with toasting just don't tell them why you shared it with them. Let them figure it out on their own. And come on people. Hit the follow button or subscribe or do anything. Leave us a review. You know what, we need like some new reviews, right? We have some old ones out there. We need like June, 2025 reviews, or like, better yet, I have an idea. Toast us at your next get together. I don't really give a shit what you do. Just get the word out. That's sort of sophisticated is awesome. Well, until next time, stay curious, stay kind. And if you can't think of the perfect toast, just say something heartfelt and don't overthink it, please.
